Hey guys, I’m 20, 178cm, and sitting at 87kg right now, and to be completely honest, I’m done making excuses and letting my potential rot. I look in the mirror and I’m just disgusted by the gap between who I am today and who I know I can actually become. I’m posting this because I need a brutal reality check and an unfiltered roadmap from guys who have crawled out of a rut and actually built themselves into disciplined men. No sugarcoating, no fake motivation. Just give it to me straight. Right now, my reality is pretty messy. Physically, I’m carrying way too much extra fat that softens my frame and completely hides my jawline and facial structure. Mentally, I’m dealing with low self-esteem and a serious lack of self-awareness. I talk a big game to myself about wanting success, but inside I constantly hesitate, mostly because I haven’t earned any real proof of capability yet to give me actual self-respect. On top of that, I’ve been relying on cheap crutches like nicotine and too much caffeine just to cope with stress, blunt my appetite, and fake an energetic mindset instead of facing my anxieties with a clear head. When it comes to my future, I want to get rich no matter what, but I’m torn on the path. I’m debating between a stable mechanic apprenticeship—where I’d eventually have to get my Meister and grind for years to open my own shop to make real money—or just throwing myself straight into the absolute meat-grinder of high-ticket B2B sales to chase high commissions. Right now, I lift weights 4 days a week and eat about 2,000 calories trying to cut down to a lean, shredded 70kg, but I know my overall execution and discipline just aren’t aggressive enough. I don’t want a pat on the back. I want a brutal blueprint. How do I successfully drop this 17kg of fat without losing my muscle or quitting when the deficit gets dark? How do I kill this low self-esteem and build a mind that can handle relentless rejection, especially if I go the sales route? What are the non-negotiable daily rules I need to implement starting today to kill the boy I am and build the man I need to be? Tell me exactly what price I have to pay over the next 6 to 8 months to completely change my life. Let’s hear it. submitted by /u/Bored_German_
Originally posted by u/Bored_German_ on r/AskMen
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