Hi there! I’m wondering if you all could help me generate some ideas on how I can help my fiancé and just show as much support to him as possible over the upcoming months. My fiancé has worked very close to home (4 minute drive each way), but has just accepted a better paying job offer that will require a 45 minute commute twice daily (90 minutes total). I work from home and my work has an excellent work/life balance which gives me the opportunity to take care of all the daily household chores during my workday and lunch break (I.e. dishes, laundry, general cleaning, shopping, meal prep, etc). I’ve loved having him come home and enjoy lunch with me a couple times a week when he had the ability. He’s making this change so that he can both get away from his very stressful current role and also be able to increase his income for us to move and start a family. I’ve also considered changing jobs but having the modest and stable $50K salary and ability to also manage the household has its own benefits so we decided to put that on hold, especially since I will be able to do at least partial home care for our infant when we eventually start family planning to cut down on daycare costs. This job just has crazy flexibility and I am very blessed to have the opportunity to have income and also essentially be a stay at home partner. During the next six months, we will also be selling our home (he really dislikes the town we are living in and I am 100% on onboard to move closer to his new work because I would also be closer to my immediate family). We plan to move into a small apartment for six months to save money and take our time finding a new home to purchase together with my dad helping where he can with a small financial cushion (likely $10k) for down payment or immediate home repair costs. We also have a small (40 person max) wedding to plan with a target date of next Fall. So there will be a LOT of transitions hitting all at once. But anyways! Aside from waking up with him to help with packing his lunch/making coffee and other morning routine stuff, what could your partners do or have done to show their support for you during a difficult transition period? I plan to do the lunch packing, having dinners ready, house cleaned, and packing little sweet notes in his lunch box. But what else could I do to help with this and just make him feel absolutely loved? submitted by /u/HawkeThisHawkeThat
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