I’m currently in the middle of the most important week of my year, preparing for massive board exams that determine my university placement. My girlfriend (22F) and I recently went on a “break” because things were rocky. She immediately left for a college function in another city. Since she left, her behavior has been a series of mind games: She unpinned my chat on social media the moment she reached the city. She’s been posting “bait” photos, including one at 11 PM showing another guy’s shoulder while they were out at a restaurant. She calls me only to dump her own drama (a friend’s emergency) and then goes right back to partying, sending me snaps of her having the time of her life while I’m home struggling. When I finally confronted her about her lack of respect and boundaries, she flipped the script. She told me I was “thinking like an old man” and being “orthodox.” She explicitly stated she wants to talk to other guys, wear whatever she wants without “explaining herself,” and admitted she’s perfectly happy functioning without me right now. To top it off, she told me she “just needs someone to blame right now” and is choosing to blame me for everything. I’ve realized that even if we “fix” this, the connection is gone—specifically the physical and emotional intimacy I need to feel secure. I feel like an emotional safety net she uses when she’s bored, while she lives a single life the rest of the time. I’m planning to vent/grieve tonight and then go “Dark Mode” to focus on my exams tomorrow. Has anyone else dealt with a partner using a “break” to explore while keeping you on a leash? How do I make sure I don’t cave and text her when the exam stress gets high? submitted by /u/hrxshx69
Originally posted by u/hrxshx69 on r/AskMen