Just wondering how to learn to trust again. I seem to be an asshole magnet, ive been in about 4 relationships as an adult and none of them ended well. I either get cheated on, abused, or I find out disgusting things they’ve done or currently do. My last relationship ended 8 months ago, he was horrible. Learning that he had been sexual in the past with some of his cousins (yes, multiple family members) made me spiral into believing all men are like this. 4 months ago I met my now boyfriend, I wasnt looking for a relationship but we met and my soul just kinda knew he was the person for me. I know its early but the connection we have is something out of a movie, hes so calm and caring and patient with me, I havent seen him mad once, he does everything for me. My issue here is, I get so insecure thinking that hes into his sister. Im aware its disgusting to think about, but she refuses to speak to me, maybe shes shy? Idk. And she has also walked in on us twice while we were naked, and she didnt bat an eye. It seemed so normal and natural for her to see my bf naked. Ive spiraled over this for a month now. I drop hints which I wish I wouldnt do but overthinking gets the better of me, and my bf reassures me that hes not like my ex. But then he texts his sister all day every single day, every time his phone lights up its her. He says she asks about me but then she wont look at me or speak to me. She doesnt live with him but she visits frequently, I feel so much anger whenever shes at his house or when he goes to see her. He talks about her frequently but ONLY about her relationships, randomly bringing up who shes dating, wondering if theyre still together, asking his mom randomly if shes still dating someone, it causes some weird reaction in me where I can only think about my past. Im very aware that this is a horrible situation and that something is wrong with me for thinking this, but im not sure how to fix it. Therapy has never helped me, ive tried it 4 separate times. I just want to stop thinking these things, my bf is genuinely the most sweet man ive ever met in my life and id rather not ruin a good thing because of my past. Any similar experiences would be helpful. submitted by /u/Born-Design9050
Originally posted by u/Born-Design9050 on r/AskMen