Guys. My best friend has been my absolute rock for the past eight years or so. Granted he’s not perfect but none of us are I definitely am not. And it’s been about two years where he barely talks to me. We have had some slamming good times. And I’ve already asked him, and no I haven’t hurt him in any way. A couple of years ago he got a brand new job, a first full-time job and started making that real money. He and I went through a lot together to stabilize our finances and we were always egging each other on to pay off our debt and set ourselves up for success. We worked together in many different situations and jobs until he got his current job. I’m happy for him. The job takes a lot of his time. About two years ago I just noticed that he’s just not responding to my text messages anymore. He would take days, sometimes weeks. I used to just hack it up to the job. This last year I wanted to hang out with him more. I missed my friend. And I told him, he has a problem answering his texts, and we just don’t go out anymore. It’s not just with me, it’s with our other friend groups in the circle too. He disclosed three months ago something that I had an inkling about. Which is that his long-term relationship isn’t doing well. I’ve been watching her on social media, and her vibe is that of being single and not in a partnership. So I think their relationship is dead. It’s none of my business however it’s affecting our friendship. I’ve texted him too many times to ask him out to drink or to go for a walk or to hang out in the past year. I can’t keep just doing it. A couple times I told him if he ever needs to talk I’m here for him. So my whole vibe right now is just let it be. Which is kind of sad. I guess another element is that I’m starting to feel resentment, and it feels confusing to feel that for somebody who might be going through a rough spot and can’t reach out. I guess I just don’t understand how much am I supposed to reach out. I currently feel foolish as hell texting a wall or a void. Calling somebody who doesn’t answer. I do not think he’s depressed. submitted by /u/fivegenerations
Originally posted by u/fivegenerations on r/AskMen