my (25F) partner (33M) is losing his idol/hero/father figure. its been an excruciatingly long, slow, and painful process. its a well-known fact in my circles that i have pisspoor grief processing/management skills. basically all i know for sure is that whatever i think the right answer is, it’s definitely not that. ive been in therapy for years and my partner just started a couple of weeks ago, so hes not quite comfortable with it yet. we’re both avoidant personalities, but he’s feeling evrry bit of this and i have no clue how to support him. ive lost many people over the years, never something like this though. my skills pretty much amount to “turn the feelings off” and thats a wrap as a man, especially if youve lost a parent, whats the best way to show support? how much do i encourage us to process the emotions together? what do i say? submitted by /u/jayofficl
Originally posted by u/jayofficl on r/AskMen