I’m friends with a girl I’ve liked for a while, and I want to make sure I’m being respectful. Recently, she went through a breakup. Part of it was because of a misunderstanding that happened after a meet she lost — it wasn’t really her fault, but I put my hand on her shoulder to reassure her, and someone else exaggerated it to her boyfriend, which ended up contributing to the breakup. She doesn’t blame me, but I still feel a little responsible. When I put my hand on her shoulder or back, it just feels natural to comfort her, but I want to check — would that feel okay if you were in her position, or would you rather I didn’t do that? We still talk every day, though she’s been a little less close lately, and I just want to make sure I’m being supportive without overstepping, especially while things are sensitive. I want to move my relationship forward without being a freak or anything. Also if there’s any signs that I could read that would tell me if it’s ok then let me know, but normally she hardly notices, and she brushed it off the one time she did. I don’t mind sharing more info if it would help since no one else I know uses this app lol. TL;DR: A girl I like went through a breakup partially because of a misunderstanding involving me. I naturally comforted her with small touches, and I want to make sure they’re okay and respectful submitted by /u/Gamble2005
Originally posted by u/Gamble2005 on r/AskGirls