Hello! My ex-partner recently ended our relationship. I fought desperately for a year, doing everything I could to save it, to no effect. There was emotional abuse throughout, some physical abuse, and manipulation sprinkled in as well. I was made to feel completely useless — feckless — from early on in the relationship. This came to fruition as I became exactly that. I was scared of her and couldn’t stand up for myself when her verbal barrages came my way, to the point where I would dissociate completely. This led to her shouting more as I sat and stared at her “like a scared little boy,” in her words. This only scratches the surface of the things she said and convinced me of. Everything she said to me hollowed me out over the years, and then she resented me for the person she made me into. I am anxious that the damage done may be permanent, and I’m not sure how to work through it. Any suggestions on how to begin healing and rebuilding would be greatly appreciated, as I have found it difficult to find much help for male victims. submitted by /u/waxy-cuticle
Originally posted by u/waxy-cuticle on r/AskMen
The most important thing for me was to realize that she was a terrible person, and the way I was feeling was normal.