Found this detailed case study on TikTok where a guy documented his 3-month journey fixing his dating app game using AI. He went from basically no results to consistent dates. Thought the approach was interesting enough to break down. Background on the guy: Not ugly, not great looking. Average. Had decent photos. Problem was his texting game was killing him - he’d either send boring openers or overthink for 20 minutes and send nothing. Match rate was around 5% and response rate was maybe 10%. Getting maybe 2 matches per month, zero dates. What he tested: Month 1 - ChatGPT : Started using ChatGPT to generate openers. Problem: responses were too generic and didn’t reference her profile. She could tell it was AI. Response rate went up slightly to 15% but still not great. Gave up on ChatGPT after 3 weeks. Month 2 - RIZZ : Switched to RIZZ because it was faster. Problem: suggestions were even more generic than ChatGPT. Felt like templates. Did see some improvement because he was at least sending openers instead of “hey” but quality was mid. Response rate around 20%. Month 2-3 - FlirtFix : Found FlirtFix through Reddit (tryagaintext.com). Key difference: you screenshot her entire profile and it generates openers based on what it sees. Responses were way more contextual. His match rate went from 5% to 35-40% and response rate from 20% to 50%. His go-to opener that killed: “So sweet that you got me [X] for our matchiversary!” Where X = something from her profile. Examples: - Has a dog: “So sweet that you got me a puppy for our matchiversary!” - Coffee shop photo: “So sweet that you got me coffee for our matchiversary!” - Hiking pic: “So sweet that you got me hiking boots for our matchiversary!” Simple, playful, references her profile. Got responses 50% of the time. The actual results by end of month 3: - Match rate: 5% → 40% - Response rate: 10% → 50% - Matches per week: 0.5 → 15+ - Dates: 0 → 12 over 2 months - Currently dating 2 girls he met this way What he learned from analyzing 200+ AI responses: 1. Playful always beats serious in openers 2. Specific questions beat generic ones 3. Callbacks to her profile get 3x more responses than random topics 4. Shorter openers (1-2 sentences) beat long ones 5. Asking about something visual in her photos works better than asking about text prompts The most interesting part: By month 3, he started writing his own openers without AI that were just as good. He basically learned what works by studying hundreds of AI-generated responses. Now he only uses AI for like 20% of openers. His advice: “Don’t use AI as a crutch. Use it as training. Analyze what it’s doing that works, then do it yourself. AI helps you get over the fear of sending something, but you should be learning patterns.” Curious if other people are doing this? Seems like using AI for dating apps is becoming way more common than people admit. submitted by /u/Prestigious-Fun-3415
Originally posted by u/Prestigious-Fun-3415 on r/AskMen