Hello Fellow Men, I (M/20) Have been in 2 Relationships so far. One lasted from 17-19 and one from 19-19 (about 5 months). In Both cases I was the reason for the Relationship falling apart, not because I did something bad, but because I couldn’t do anything at all. In my first relationship everything was fine, but I got progressively more terrified of Physical Contact, because I thought I might hurt her or she might not want it but not tell me. (Only talking about kissing/cuddling, there was no sex involved at any point.) It was extremely paralyzing for me because I could barely sleep in the same room with her, out of fear of her being afraid of me. In the End I couldn’t even make simple descisions, like where we would go to eat or anything like that, because I was extremely afraid of her not liking what I say. Its completely unreasonable, because nothing like that ever happened (At least from what I know/From what she told me). There was nothing that she ever told me that would make me react that way/get those fears, but I did anyway. Thats what ended up killing the relationship, because I basically was a pathetic useless blob that could not do anything, make any descisions or even tell jokes anymore. The second relationship was the same, altho in that relationship I actually communicated my fears, but it did not work out anyway. Couldn’t get over my fears. Maybe someone has experienced similar struggles and got out of it? Edit: Asking this here because I feel that this might be an issue that mainly men would have submitted by /u/Catlover419-20
Originally posted by u/Catlover419-20 on r/AskMen
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