I live with my wife and occasionally one of her friends comes over, and sometimes we all drink together. The thing is, when I drink with my own friends I become very relaxed. After 2–3 cans I get a little high, joke around, do bakchodi, laugh a lot, and just enjoy the vibe. But when I drink with my wife and her friends, I become very different. Even after 4–5 cans I don’t really get high and I stay quiet and attentive. One reason is that when they get drunk, they start singing loudly in the middle of the night and dancing. That makes me nervous because I’m always thinking about the landlord. I keep worrying that if he hears the noise he might come and create a problem or even tell us to leave the house. Another reason is that I feel responsible for their safety. When people are drunk, accidents can happen — someone might trip, fall, or hit a glass table or something sharp. Because of that, I stay more alert instead of fully relaxing. Also, to be honest, I’m not really interested in long emotional conversations when drinking. Sometimes they want to talk about old problems or feelings or want me to dance continuously with them. When I drink, I prefer to just chill, listen to calm music, and relax instead of getting into heavy discussions. Even if I get irritated or get a headache from the noise, I still sit with them so they don’t feel bad or think I’m ruining their moment. At the end of the night, when everyone is done, I make sure they’re safely in bed and hydrated. Only then I grab the beer I saved for myself from the fridge and go to sleep. They keep asking me why I’m such a different person with them compared to my friends. How do i tell them why i act differently submitted by /u/Dushyant_Choudhary
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