Anyone with their own experiences with this, it would be great to hear your stories. Am I being stubborn and asking too much? For context, I’m [31F] and my partner is [34M]. We dated for 2 years when we were in our mid twenties. We broke up because he moved across the country to pursue a masters degree. We reconnected and he was still living across the country. We chatted about future plans. I told him I want to stay in my current city for 10+ years. I have an amazing career here, it’s just starting to pick up, and an amazing social circle. I told him not to move back if that wasn’t going to work for him. He thought about it for a few days and decided he was going to do it. We did long distance for 3 months and then he moved in with me here. He’s been home for a month, and he has found a job in a different city that he’s interested in. He’s planning on taking it and calling me rigid for not wanting to move there now. He has a very niche career. Our plan was that I would be a SAHM once we had kids while they were toddlers, but I’m very career driven, so I would want to go back to work once the kids are in school. His argument is that if he’s going to be supporting the family, we need to choose his career now. That he’s not taking a step back in his career. My argument is that I was clear with wanting to stay here and having kids here (with the emotional support that comes with having an amazing social circle). I will be taking major steps back in my career when we have kids and I don’t want to take a step back right now. He’s asking me to move, but also telling me he’s not sure the passion between us is there anymore. I told him it’s unfair to question passion and ask me to move the next sentence. I thought our passion was doing great. I was telling everyone he’s the love of my life and my forever person. Important to note that I’m in a 200K role right now. If I move, I’d be looking at 100K roles and starting over. submitted by /u/gemcoffee
Originally posted by u/gemcoffee on r/AskMen