I’m posting this on behalf of my girlfriend because she doesn’t use Reddit, but she asked me to write this honestly from her side. We’ve been together for about 10 months. She’s noticed a pattern in herself that she doesn’t like and wants to work on. Whenever I give her gifts or bring something back from a trip, she says her first thought often goes to how much it cost or how big it is, instead of the intention behind it. Even when she appreciates the effort, she sometimes catches herself thinking “he could have done more,” and she feels guilty about that reaction. She’s worried this mindset is unhealthy and could affect future long-term commitment or marriage if she doesn’t fix it now. She asked me to make it clear that she’s not trying to be materialistic and genuinely wants to change how she associates money with feeling loved. She cares about me and the relationship, this is more about her internal thought pattern than dissatisfaction with me. Has anyone dealt with something similar or changed this kind of thinking? What helped? submitted by /u/Own_Revolution_551
Originally posted by u/Own_Revolution_551 on r/AskGirls