I’m 34 and lately I’ve been reflecting on the last several years of my life. Honestly, it feels like I’m starting over and it’s been weighing on me. Right before the pandemic I was trying to move forward with my life and started graduate school. Around that same time my dad became disabled, so I moved back home to help take care of him. Then the pandemic hit, which made finding work difficult, and I ended up doing odd jobs while helping my family. Not long after that, I finally got full-time work…only to have my mother be diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. She had a rapid cognitive decline that left her disabled as well. Since late 2019, I’ve basically been a caregiver for both of my parents. I don’t regret helping them, but looking back it feels like the last 7–8 years of my life have been consumed by one hardship after another, and I haven’t really moved forward in my own life. It’s been getting to me. Now I’m trying to rebuild and figure out what direction to go in, but starting over at 34 feels overwhelming some days. For men who’ve had to rebuild their lives after 30: How did you regain momentum? What helped you move forward when you felt stuck? What were the first steps you took to turn things around? I’d appreciate hearing any perspective from people who’ve been through something similar. TL;DR: 34M who was trying to move forward with grad school before the pandemic, but since then life has been stagnant due to caregiving and family health crises. Feels like the last 7–8 years stalled my life and now I’m trying to rebuild. Men who restarted after 30 — how did you regain momentum? submitted by /u/RKfiddy04
Originally posted by u/RKfiddy04 on r/AskMen
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