24F here soon turning 25. I’ve noticed that a lot of my girl friends are very anxious about aging. And I know of course that it has to do with societal pressures around women aging physically and beauty standards but I’ve grown quite annoyed at some of my peers making remarks about how “they still get asked for their license when buying alcohol” or how people don’t call them “Miss” (I’m French so we use Madame for older ladies). They sometimes try to act like it’s a bother but you sometimes sense that it’s something you should be proud of. I’m a woman of color and we do tend to be adultified early. Where I’m from women value looking a little bit more mature I guess. (I’m Chilean/Mexican) On top of that, I’ve always been on the curvier side, so all my life in France people have thought that I was way older. So I always get called Ma’am, and people sometimes think my big sis is my my youngest. 😅 But lately I was mostly thinking about how to someone like me a lot of guys around my age (25,24,26…) all kind of seem to like girls that look like they’re 20-22. At most. I’m assuming it’s just me feeling the pressure of aging but it doesn’t seem like men in their 20s are actually attracted to women who look a little more mature. Is the youthful look really “in” ? It this just me comparing myself to white women? My boyfriend’s friends say I look my age but then I’ll hang out in college with other folks and they’ll laugh about me being “old” or having “older sister” or “mother vibes” which is cute but… I’m definitely feeling the pressure of aging now. Also how do you all feel about physically aging? Does it make you nervous? Do you think it’ll make you less attractive to the other gender? TLDR:do men like women who look mature or does looking “youthful” even matter to yall?” submitted by /u/Particular_Bunch_483
Originally posted by u/Particular_Bunch_483 on r/AskMen
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