Obviously it’s case by case, and depends on whether you’re interested in the woman too I suppose, but generally speaking, how would you feel (particularly shy men) if a co worker showed interested in you? There’s a guy at work who I have a bit of a crush on, who I think might have one back. He asks if I’m going upstairs for lunch before he does, heard that I’m playing chess daily and although he used to play chess daily, he picked it back up again and is mentioning it to me when he sees me. He seems to redirect questions or thoughts to me when in a group, though it’s subtle. He is shy though, and for instance when he had to move over on the couch for lunch today to make space for another co worker, he didn’t get too close to me (was closer to the other co worker). It felt like he wasn’t wanting to encroach. Some of these things point towards him being a nice and normal guy, friendly with no interest, and if anything a lack of interest (not wanting to sit too close), but then I think at it from a shy man’s perspective and wonder if he similarly has a crush, and is being respectful of space and boundaries whilst showing a bit of interest. I’m unsure if I should make it a bit more obvious that I like him, knowing that it will likely stay where it’s at now if not, or if I should leave it because - it’s a work setting (though a very relaxed workplace), and because I have no real indication that he likes em other than that he’s nice to me and sometimes asks me about non work related things submitted by /u/Shameful_success
Originally posted by u/Shameful_success on r/AskMen