In my teenage years, I was very introverted and focused mostly on academics. I didn’t interact much with girls, and when I did try once, I handled it poorly and ended up avoiding the situation completely. Looking back, I think that phase built a habit of avoiding interaction instead of dealing with it. Now in college, I notice that some guys are naturally comfortable in mixed social settings, while others (like I used to be) tend to avoid eye contact or keep distance without realizing it. For those who were socially awkward earlier — what actually helped you become more comfortable around women? Was it just time and exposure, or did you consciously work on changing your behavior? submitted by /u/After_Willingness218
Originally posted by u/After_Willingness218 on r/AskMen
Realising that it wasn’t the women who made me awkward. It was the autism. Also I would meet women at flat parties where everyone was drunk etc. So I’d strike up a conversation with someone, we’d talk for hours, possibly break into the botanic gardens or a graveyard and play tonsil hockey for a couple of hours before going back to her place and having intense and passionate sex until sunrise when we’d collapse in each others arms. After breaking down the barriers like that it’s easy to talk, when sober.
Not joking. This was how I actually approached dating in early adulthood.
