I’ve been with my husband since June 2023, I moved for him to the east cost in July 1st 2025 since we were long distance. We got married October 2025. I thought everything was great, this is what we’ve been wanting for the longest time. Of course we’ve had our ups and downs and lately more downs but we were working on them. Then two nights ago I discovered a pic of a screenshot of texts he was having with someone. I asked him about it and he told me it was nothing but that he hasn’t been happy since Late November. I had no clue about this since it all seemed normal. He said this has been a problem in his past relationships where he feels so happy and then this sadness takes over where he no longer feels happy in the relationship and then ends it. He was hoping I was the exception but he realized he was feeling the same way as his previous relationships. Everything came out two nights ago and now he’s saying he doesn’t want to be with me anymore, he wants to work on himself and figure out why he feels the way he feels but he wants to do that without me. I asked him if he loved me and he said yes, he will never love anyone the way he loves me but right now he loves me more as a friend. It’s so hard going through this bc I know what I would tell my friend if she told me this was happening but being the one in this, it’s so difficult. I feel like I wasn’t given the opportunity to have a chance to try and help him or work through what was making him sad or find a new way to go about our relationship/ marriage. I know he’s been trying since late November but he was doing it alone without me knowing. I want to be given the opportunity to be here with him even if we have to take a long break, I’m okay with that. Why can’t we both work on one another supporting one another. I don’t want to go back home, I refuse. I know I sound desperate but I feel like a failure. I want to stay here and be with him and support him. I see no light at the end of the tunnel, part of me wishes I would’ve never found out about the text messages / picture and continue the relationship the way it was bc we did have good times. I never would’ve expected this. I cannot see my life without him nor do I want to, I don’t know what I need to do. I feel so lost and I just want to crawl in a hole and not feel anything anymore, I don’t want to exist at this moment, I want eternal sleep. I deleted all my social medias (except this ofc) but I just feel so sad, I don’t want to let him go. I want to be with him. Thank you for letting me vent. submitted by /u/qualitytrash
Originally posted by u/qualitytrash on r/AskMen
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