I’m dating a girl. She’s a 10/10. Liked literally gets attention from guys all the time. Great body, very smart, high status job. She’s generally very principled, good values, doesn’t open the door, etc. It’s come to my attention that some women find me attractive. I won’t comment here about my opinion in this regard. My gf personally would rate me very high, she’s quite enamored with me which is very nice. I’m aware that she will receive tremendous attention from men. I have to be ok with that. It is what it is. I’m also aware that guys, in general, receive much less attention than women, all things being equal. Certainly not universally the case, but generally, a lot of men will go out of their way to give attention to a pretty girl. Very few women will give attention in the same way in pursuit of or in admiration for a guy. Recently, I’ve realized that my gf can be very jealous of other women finding me attractive, even in the simulated theoretical sense when nothing has happened. It’s become a difficult friction point in our relationship. Multiple times a week we discuss and debate the intricacies of whether other women are attracted to me. I don’t fault her for feeling the way that she does. I see the variables in her mind that produce the resulting feelings. It’s not irrational. But it is difficult. The idea of this just dawned on me: do women realize that the stimulus for the feelings of jealousy are an order of magnitude higher in the opposite direction? Do women realize how much men have to deal with, regarding how much attention their female partner receives vs them? Do you - men in particular - have any opinions or experiences to share about this? submitted by /u/ithinkimcookedfam
Originally posted by u/ithinkimcookedfam on r/AskMen