Hi to everyone here. I ask this question in good faith and hoping to get serious answers from people who have the specific view I will outline below. So I think most people are aware of this exchange by now. Take a woman who doesn’t want to get married. I’ll put myself as an example so I don’t offend anybody; I don’t have an ideological reason not to get married, I just have no interest in anybody and have never aimed to create a family, so it’s not my plan for now or the near future. Many people berate or ridicule me for this. Some people come and say “but you’ll be all alone when you get older”, “you’ll regret this in your 50s”, “you’ll hit the wall at 40”, etc., most of them are conservatives/right leaning. Now I will suppose this is all in good faith. But what do people who make those arguments expect these kinds of women to do? Even if I were to accept these arguments and say okay, I’ll probably be alone at 50 and it might be a bad decision; that doesn’t change the fact that I still don’t want a partner or children. What solution do you— if you make the above arguments— give those women? Should they pressure or force themselves to get married and have kids even if they don’t want to? Which includes to spend 18 or more years raising a child or children just to raise the chances of not being alone at 50 or 60? I know it sounds very silly, but I’m looking for a serious answer from individuals on the other side and hope to engage in sincere discussion. This question is meant for men who make those arguments. submitted by /u/ScarRedDA
Originally posted by u/ScarRedDA on r/AskMen