I will be leaving personal details out so as not to alienate any parties involved. So long story short, my best friend of 12 years has been in a relationship with a woman for approximately 9 months. For reference, she is 9 years older than him and has 2 kids from a previous relationship. We are of the age where dating a woman with kids is not out of the ordinary, but her age and her kids are not the problem here. They have broken up twice in 6 months. The last time it happened, my friend talked to me about it and was entirely ready to take some time off to work on himself, go back to church, didn’t even want to go back to her ever, etc. This lasted exactly one day before he was moved back in with her, and this is where our situation starts to get concerning. In the week since we hung out and talked about all this to do with the breakup, he has not been acting like himself, he has seemed removed from his usual social situations, and perhaps most concerning of all he has blocked me on Instagram and on the phone. 2 days before this happened we were talking normally and seemingly having a good time. Keep in mind we have been best friends for 12 years. I asked his younger brother and his mother if they knew anything about that, and neither one of them did. His brother called him, and from what I heard he was very dismissive and told him that this stuff is “none of his business”. When his brother asked if he was okay, my friend hung up on him mid sentence I really don’t know what to do, and as long as I’m blocked I can’t reach out to him myself. However I know isolation from friends and family is one of the top signs of an abusive relationship. His family and friends love and care about him, but we just don’t know how to help, if we even can. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks. submitted by /u/palanterrx
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