Hi all, woman here (36). I’ve been with my boyfriend (39) for three and a half years. Our relationship (to me) is very healthy. We split household chores fairly evenly, have a shared hobby that we do together regularly, go to the gym together, talk about the future we want to build together. Sex life is good for me, seems to be good for him based on his responses. The issue is marriage. I have always been open with him that marriage and family are things that are important to me. Initially when we talked about it early in our relationship he said when he was young he was opposed, but has come around. Now that we are talking about it more concretely he is adamantly against it. Our conversations around it have become increasingly adversarial. He started therapy about two months ago (parents had an unhappy marriage for a long time plus is an Iraq vet and has plenty of trauma) he says he just isn’t ready for marriage and doesn’t now when/if he will ever be. Question- are there men here that were in a similar situation? If you changed your mind, what made you change your mind? What made you feel ready? submitted by /u/someremaininguser
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