hi there, I’d really appreciate honest male perspectives on this. I met a man over the course of about a year in a professional setting. From early on, I knew he liked me immediately there was very strong mutual chemistry — intense eye contact, a natural connection, a lot of ease and laughter. It didn’t feel one-sided at all. Over time, the dynamic became more emotionally charged. It wasn’t just friendly anymore — there was clear tension, and we both seemed affected by it. At some point, I took a real risk and made a clear move: I reached out and suggested we meet outside of that context. He didn’t ignore it — he contacted me and said my message made him really happy, and accepted the idea. But he stayed vague about when. Then… nothing happened for about 3 months. Later, when we spoke again in professional context , he ended the call with a slightly loaded “see you soon :) ´ I expected he talked about us meeting but he did not so I told him a calm ´ goodbye ´ — mainly because I had already put myself out there and didn’t want to chase after waiting that long. He seemed a bit thrown off by my reaction. Since then, no contact it’s been 3 weeks tbh I don’t understand because I know he was strongly attracted to me , my personality included he isn’t married and he is a man with principle very serious guy so he would have never said yes to meet if he had a significant others . he is 50 years old So my questions are: If a man feels something but doesn’t act clearly, what usually stops him? Does this sound like genuine interest held back… or just politeness/ego boost? If a man is interested but cautious, would he come back after time… or just let it fade? thank you submitted by /u/pausedejeuner
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