I’d be really interested to hear this from a male perspective. By initiating, I mean suggesting meeting up or making plans for a date — not just starting a conversation. I’ve noticed that when I take that step and suggest meeting, the effort from the other side doesn’t always increase much afterwards. Because of that, I’ve started experimenting with waiting more to see if the man takes initiative in planning a date, just to see if he steps up and shows clearer intention. At the same time, I know I tend to initiate because I’m quite direct and don’t enjoy endless chatting, especially on dating apps. I’d usually rather just get to the point and meet. A friend also mentioned that sometimes when a woman takes the lead early on, it can affect the dynamic — but I’m not sure how true that is. So I’m curious from your side: • Does it change anything for you if a woman initiates the date? • Does it affect your level of effort or interest? • And what actually makes you take initiative in planning a date vs staying more passive? submitted by /u/ymasu
Originally posted by u/ymasu on r/AskMen