I’m beginning to think I am the problem for why I am not having success with dating. I didn’t think I was ugly - not overtly attractive - maybe average looking. But now at 37, I just dont know anymore. When using dating apps, I barely get any swipes. The dates I been on doesn’t equate to chemistry or i’m told I am a better friend to them. I have ADHD and can be proved to rejection dysphoria. When I was younger I fell into bad habits like love bombing or trauma bonding, but i’ve worked on those and no longer do it. In fact, i’ve shut myself off from the idea of dating because I feel heavy and feel quick, and don’t want to keep exposing myself to bullshit. Someone from high school reconnected. Started off small but gradually increased. She showed excitement in chatting, wanting to meet in person and discussed plans. Had a phone call, things were cool. Then Friday night she asked me my height (5’10"). Sunday she wanted to reschedule the plans for today because “work picked up.” Then proceeded to leave me on read. I hadn’t developed anything beyond mild interest. Yet, the rejection hits hard because it fits a common pattern, and happens far more often than having any success. The pattern then spirals me down a hole of negativity and affirms everything I dislike about myself. It sucks because I didn’t want nor expected this. I’ve been working hard on myself. But that energy, excitement, and initial interest pulled me out of the shell and made me curious only to backfire. submitted by /u/SwitchJumpy
Originally posted by u/SwitchJumpy on r/AskMen
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