Not sure if this is an appropriate post for this sub, please let know if it isn’t. I just thought forthis particular subject the perspective of a man who has lived through the male adolescent experience could be helpful. My apologies if not and please remove it if not appropriate : For some context I’m a nanny who has worked with a family for about 4 years now. I take care of a boy who is 14, and a girl who is 9. I care about them both, very much. What do I say to a 14 year old teenager (boy) who says and believes that “all men are inherently evil”, and that “men are less important than women are” This is delicate because of the current state of the world, he is rather politically aware, and definitely spends too much time doom scrolling/ on technology in general. Their mother puts me in charge of their schedules and allows me to implement technology breaks as I see appropriate, which i do, but you can only prevent so much by censoring. I try to teach responsible engagement with social media and news platforms. I’m worried about how this speaks to his self worth, the way he regards himself as a person and relates to the world. I know that he doesn’t think highly of himself. I told him that “some men make bad decisions but not all men are evil” and he said I sounded misogynistic because I said “not all men”. Obviously I’m working against a lack of logical reasoning. These is an emotionally complex layer to all of this. I want to help. How can I gently guide him through this? Is there a way? His parents are aware of his mental state, his mother literally walked in as we were having this conversation and rolled her eyes as if she’s heard it before and doesn’t even bother to try to change his mind. He is in therapy, on medication, etc. He has said he wouldn’t feel comfortable talking to his therapist about this. I know you can’t force someone to accept help, or change someone’s way of thinking. But are there any responsible/realistic tools can I offer to this suffering child? submitted by /u/sweetsinge
Originally posted by u/sweetsinge on r/AskMen
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