I am a 35F and I’ve been together with my now husband for 13 years. I am curious to know how much men out there put into doing household work/chores. As a side note, my husband is always good at taking care of cars, motorbikes, plumbing works, electrical works, because he is a mechanic and loves doing these stuff naturally. But the kind of things he hates doing and would not do unless asked, is like tidying up up the bathroom, doing dishes, doing laundry, tidying up his clothes in his closet, cooking, cleaning the bathroom, washing our daughter’s hair. We used to have maids and he expects that the maid and I would 100% take care of all of these things to the point of picking up his socks off of the floor for him. At the start of our relationship, I was the one working and we lived in a small apartment in Asia that was easy to maintain. He was happy to stay at home and cook, and took care of our son. Although the cooking was not always because food was so cheap it was cheaper to eat out than to cook. Fast forward 13 years later, we have moved to our home country which is a lot more expensive and he is a completely changed man and seems to be falling into the stereotypical man who expects women to take care of everything and wouldn’t lift a finger, unless I begrudgingly ask him to. Mind you we’ve been through all situation, where both of us work, or I work and he doesn’t, and in the recent months he works and I don’t which is the first time this happens. But pretty much in all situations I am still the one carrying mental and physical burdens to organise the house, our family, and our meals, the kids, etc. I have built quite a bit of resentment with the household issue. While some people see this as completely normal for women to carry househols burden, I really don’t and would be glad to separate from him over this, as I see this as largely sexist and manchild behavior. Is this a reasonable view? This is only one of the issues in our relationship and while it seems minor, it’s the one that keeps popping up here and there in a very hurtful way, and as a woman I don’t think I can live with that anymore. I want a man who knows how to look after himself and cares about the house/home as much as I do. submitted by /u/Accomplished_Bee6491
Originally posted by u/Accomplished_Bee6491 on r/AskMen