hi everyone, my spouse ( 36m) and I (37f) have been together for 12 years. married for 2 years. just some insights : for 10 years I had complete trust in him. example, he will tell me he watches porn when we don’t live together. or he needs to go to a pub and buy drinks for waitresses. only early last year , somehow by gods will, I found out he secretly liked a work colleague, she’s 6 years younger than him. when questioned he told me the girl is a mixture of character between his sister and me and one of his besties whom I’m close with. he never thought of telling me as he had no intention to get with her. I was quite shaken till now. he told me there is nothing wrong in our marriage and I have been a good spouse with him, and taking care of his parents, and everything he has dreamed of. he says he loves me a lot and till the point that he talks about his feelings and dreams too that we shared together. only 2 weeks ago I found out he watched porn. I mean I am fine with it. but at that point he lied to me saying he doesn’t. which I was pretty upset. he should be completely honest with me and my phone is always there for him to see. I work in an all male environment, which I think he should be more worried, but he doesn’t seems to be. I do have a high libido and he claims his is low. yet, I felt like he shouldn’t lie about it. not only that, he even checked compatibility with another female colleague.( not the one he had a crush on ) before marriage, we do have sex weekly, like 3-4x. now he says we are older and due to his work commitments, he is tired, and not to worry as he is still sexually attracted to me. I mean I understand. but it is so hurting! any opinions are greatly appreciated before I decide my next step l. submitted by /u/penatsial
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