I (21f) really need help figuring out this concept so I thought coming here might help. Some people in my life had an interesting view on what brotherhood bonding is when it comes to making friends in fields like the Marines or Police officers. Or even fire fighters, construction, or anything along the lines of blue collar/ civil protection. This isn’t just one person in my life saying this, I’ve experienced similar views like this from many men in my life and I guess it just has me confused, and I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around this… I may not fully understand what brotherhood is to men because I’m not a man but I’ve been told that fighting/ sparing with said friends in those fields is what solidifies that brotherhood. To me it seems a little barbaric because imo you don’t need to beat up your friends to have a strong bond with them, tbh fighting your friends ruins the bond to me… But I guess it’s different? I get wrestling and stuff like that, but to fully box your friends and expect them to be like “Yeah man, that was a great fight! Let my black eye heal up and we can go again next week!” It’s just so incredibly odd to me… I guess my real question(s) are, Can men be friends without violence? Or is the violence truly needed? Do these men need to deconstruct what friendship is? Or do I just need to nod my head and let men have their own views on healthy friendships? I hope this post is somewhat within guidelines. I just feel like opinions from other men will help me understand brotherhood is to a man more as a woman. submitted by /u/Stunning_Task_2440
Originally posted by u/Stunning_Task_2440 on r/AskMen
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