I’m (27F) trying to figure out if I’m overreacting or if this is a reasonable boundary in a relationship. My boyfriend (24M) has a female best friend he’s known for a while (like five years). I didn’t have an issue with their friendship before, but recently she went through a breakup and their dynamic seems to have shifted a bit. They talk more (sometimes texting late at night), and the content is sometimes her sharing about her sex life and recent weight loss. I know because he tells me about it. Recently, shortly after her breakup, before our date he picked up a prescription for her and dropped it off at her work. As we were leaving, she said “love you” to him (he didn’t say it back). Again, I just thought it was nothing because I tell my best friend I love her sometimes. They also play wrestle sometimes. When I brought it up, he said that she is like a sister to him and would never see her that way. He said they both loved martial arts growing up, so it is just a shared interest. He also mentioned that he did find her attractive for a short bit when they first met, but once he got to know her that went away. Another thing that’s been bothering me is that they share their locations with each other. To me, that feels like something you usually do with a partner or close family, not necessarily a friend of the opposite sex when you’re in a relationship. But at the same time, I feel a little old fashioned for thinking that and maybe I have some unresolved problems to work through. Maybe this is just unmasking a jealous and insecure part of me that I didn’t know about. My boyfriend is very open with me, doesn’t hide anything, and has been receptive when I’ve expressed discomfort about certain things. I do really trust him, and he is so good to me. I also think he might just be a flirtatious person, but doesn’t realize it and would never cheat. I guess I just want a second opinion on whether I’m overreacting or being controlling. At what point does a friendship like this cross boundaries? Also, is it normal for a guy to share his location with his female best friend when he’s in a relationship? submitted by /u/switkfhg77
Originally posted by u/switkfhg77 on r/AskMen