One of my biggest fears about dating and long‑term relationships is what happens when both partners get older. Sometimes when I see older women, it hits me that age changes everyone, and physical attraction naturally fades. That thought makes me wonder how I would handle being with someone I once found incredibly attractive, only to feel my desire slowly decline as we both age. It’s a sad and uncomfortable idea to think about. Because of that, I’ve questioned whether monogamy makes sense for some men, especially those who are attractive or have a lot of options. If aging changes desire so much, is committing to one person for life really the best choice? I’m not trying to sound cynical it’s just something I genuinely struggle with. The fear of losing attraction over time makes long‑term commitment feel risky, and I’m curious how other people deal with that. Like it’s sad to think about tbf when I see older women sometimes I see how looks fade, and I know the main claim “love is good” but lust is also a big component of love and if it’s not there anymore it’s pretty numb imo. I mean I know the usual comments here “I still like my wife”, like yeah guys I know these comments but even if they are most likely honest it would be better to have a more clear perspective maybe some guys would agree with me or some could address my point. submitted by /u/ProofCoconut9085
Originally posted by u/ProofCoconut9085 on r/AskMen
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