Long distance dating has only ended in wasted time and disappointment for me. Due to faulty emotional investment and it ending before I’m able to travel. Personal experience (you can skip to the question) : Like, some of the girls I’ve talked to may have been really interesting and pretty- but the distance issue and not being able to travel for months was always the problem for me. For example, I dated an Ecuadorian woman (I’m from North Am.) for 2 months last year, and she didn’t send me anything spicy for that time yet posted full-body bikini pics in her WhatsApp highlights so I had to call that shit off. And last week, I dated a tΓans woman (I’m using the torque symbol for “r” so this isn’t marked as a low-effort post) who lived near southern Texas who actually had some green flags- but it would’ve been months before I’d personally be able to see her from mutually traveling for a holiday/vacation, and she was calling me her boyfriend after 2-3 days of dating to her personal friends in a gaming party chat- which at that rate I personally felt uncomfortable going to commitment (although we did define boundaries after like 2 days that included being monogamous), and I asked for a casual/open relationship instead because I may be talking to other girls and have partying habits since being in college I’d have to lay off and I don’t want to end up cheαting- and that broke it off. (I feel like I’m more of the dipshit slut this time around) Question: But for those of you who thought you were seriously dating someone online, and then took the time and effort to be committed for months or actually travel to them- how did you find out it was a trap or that you’d been lied to? What did you do after? submitted by /u/Warm_Syllabub_2247
Originally posted by u/Warm_Syllabub_2247 on r/AskMen