I’m sure this has been asked before, but probably under other circumstances. I’m responsive to CBT inspired guidance (e.g. changing perfectionism by identifying laminar/turbulent spiraling) but it doesn’t help here. I have horrible self esteem with regards to my appearance. It’s really bad. I frequented brainceIs a lot as a 14 year old right after the larger shutdown and spiraled since. This was almost 10 years ago now I guess, damn. I cannot view myself as an average looking person despite being told I look average - only verbalizing most of the problem is in my head. Negative confidence leads me to subpar relationships, thus making the problem worse. I’m not asking for validation. It wouldn’t help. Trying to change my thoughts hasn’t helped thus far. The closest I come is this, where everything feels like a hypothetical. This isn’t venting about how ugly I am, but legitimate background. I do not want to feel this. Overcoming this feels Sisyphean; it really wrecks me to even type. There’s gotta be something I’m missing here. I could really use something outside of the box. Thanks guys. submitted by /u/idontfuckingsmokepot
Originally posted by u/idontfuckingsmokepot on r/AskMen