Acquaintances with a dude who’s in the same volunteer group as me. We run into each other at events, including a book club we both recently joined. After one book club, he invited everyone (10ish people in our club) to see a documentary related to the book at this tiny hole-in-the-wall theater. Well, I was only one from our group to show up, but he took a seat right next to me. Then he seem to be flirting with me the rest of the night. Sat real close, long eye contact, lots of playful touching. I asked him to walk me back to my car since it was late night, but he fist bumped me at the end, which I didn’t know to take as friend-zone vibes or not. A few weeks later, I decided to take the leap to ask him out. I wanted to take a chance and be direct, not just wait to see how things go the next time I saw him, since we don’t see each other that often. I asked him out on Signal DM (where our book club chat communicates lol…he doesn’t have my number). I’m going to get something to drink after, would you like to join me? He texted back many hours later saying he wouldn’t be going to the event cause he was busy 🥀 So, clearly he wasn’t interested, so why all the flirting then? Or did I just misread the whole thing? submitted by /u/Historical-Care70
Originally posted by u/Historical-Care70 on r/AskMen
You can’t read minds. But you can learn to accept no for an answer and move on. It hurts at first, but then you get used to it. Ultimately, you realize someone declining could be for any number of reasons you’re unaware of: They already have a partner; they’re on the rebound; they’re too busy; they don’t like you in that way. Whatever the reason, it’s not your fault or your problem. Be polite, move on, and try to remain on good terms.