TL;DR: I’ve been juggling multiple relationships and still end up losing feelings every time. I chase, get attached, then suddenly detach. I don’t know if this is normal or if I’ve messed up how I see love. Alright, I need real opinions on this because I’m starting to question myself. I’m 18M, and honestly, my situation with love is messed up. Right now or recently, I’ve been in relationships with multiple girls and also had a few situationships going on. And the pattern is the same every time. I get attached, things feel real, and then suddenly something switches inside me. My first relationship started in 11th grade. She confessed first, and I got attached too. After 12th, we moved to different cities. She’s in an all girls college now. I decided to continue long distance, but she was always unsure about things. I genuinely loved her, but one day she told me something like “Don’t talk to me, your productivity will get affected.” That hit me hard. And weirdly, after that, I just detached. We still talk sometimes, but even she asks “What are we?” and I don’t even have an answer. Then in my first semester, another girl from my class confessed to me. I didn’t really like her, but maybe I liked the attention. So I said yes. We spent a lot of time together, on campus and outside. But again, suddenly I lost interest. I didn’t cut her off completely, just pushed her into the friend zone. she still talk to me and also i. Then second semester started. I had a small crush on a girl but never confessed. One day, she told me she liked me too. We started talking, spending time together, and got into a relationship. She genuinely loved me a lot. She gave me gifts, spent money, gave effort, and we had some really good moments. Chandigarh trips, campus walks, everything felt real. Honestly, I thought she might be the one. But then one day, out of nowhere, she sent me a long message saying she shouldn’t have gotten into this relationship. Instead of asking why or supporting her (may be something happened or may be there is somethings serious happened), I just blocked her from everywhere. No discussion, nothing. And now I’m sitting here thinking, what the hell is wrong with me? Even when I’m in a relationship, I still talk to multiple girls, have a lot of female best friends, and I used to think that’s normal. Now I’m not so sure. This isn’t new either. Back in school, I had a crush on a girl. I chased her, made her fall for me, got into a relationship, and then suddenly lost all feelings. It felt like I just wanted to win her. Once I had her, she didn’t matter anymore. And I hate admitting this, but this pattern keeps repeating, even in situationships. Sometimes this really messes with my head. I overthink a lot and start doubting myself. Is this how people are now? Is this just Gen Z behavior? Or is something actually wrong with me? I don’t want fake comfort. I just want to understand what’s going on. submitted by /u/Ok_Art_5559
Originally posted by u/Ok_Art_5559 on r/AskMen