I’ve been thinking about this a lot and I want honest perspectives. I’m a Black woman at a college in the South, and I do find myself attracted to white guys. But if I’m being real, I genuinely don’t know if they feel the same about me. It’s not like I never get interest, but most of the time it only happens if I’m the one who initiates first. And even then… it doesn’t always go anywhere. For context, I’ve only had one boyfriend, and that was back in high school, so I don’t have a ton of dating experience to go off of. Now that I’m on campus, I’d really like to meet someone and be in a relationship, but I feel stuck in this weird in-between where I don’t know how I’m being perceived. One thing I’m especially curious about is how white men generally view Black women, especially when it comes to our natural hair. I wear mine natural, and I love it, but I can’t lie and say I haven’t wondered if that affects how I’m seen in the dating world, especially in a predominantly white environment. I don’t want to change myself, but I do want to understand the reality of how I might be coming across. Another thing is… I would actually love to be approached first. I feel like that would make things clearer and take some pressure off me always having to guess or make the first move. But from what I’ve noticed, a lot of guys seem hesitant to approach women in general, and it feels even more amplified when it’s interracial. Like there’s this extra layer of fear or uncertainty. So I guess I’m trying to figure out a few things: • From your experience or perspective, how do white men generally view Black women, especially with natural hair? • Do you think guys are more hesitant to approach outside their race, or am I overthinking that? • How can you tell if a guy might be interested in you just from how he looks at you or acts around you? I don’t want to keep overanalyzing every interaction, but I also don’t want to be completely oblivious. I’m trying to find a balance between being open and protecting my confidence. Any honest insight would really help. TLDR: I’m a Black woman at a Southern college who’s attracted to white guys, but I’m unsure if they’re attracted to me back. I usually have to initiate first, and even then it doesn’t always go anywhere. I’m wondering how white men generally view Black women, especially with natural hair, if they’re more hesitant to approach interracially, and how to tell if a guy is interested without always making the first move. submitted by /u/lookingforlostmedia2
Originally posted by u/lookingforlostmedia2 on r/AskMen