I’m 29F, my partner is 29M. We’ve been together nearly 10 years. I’m trying to understand something from a male perspective, specifically from men who prioritize logic and practicality in decision-making. A small example: I like flowers. I’ve communicated that clearly over the years. He doesn’t buy them because he sees them as impractical. They die, so in his framework, they’re not a good use of money. He prefers useful gifts. For me, it’s not about the object. It’s about feeling heard when I say something matters to me. What I’m trying to understand is this: When your partner expresses a desire that doesn’t make sense to you logically, how do you process that? Do you override your own value system because it matters to them? Or do you stick to your principles because you believe your reasoning is sound? Where is the line between staying true to your worldview and adapting for your partner? I’m not asking whether flowers are “worth it.” I’m trying to understand how men think about this kind of values mismatch in long-term relationships. submitted by /u/Jolly-Rub-3412
Originally posted by u/Jolly-Rub-3412 on r/AskMen