context: I’m an attractive 29f, but I’m asexual. I’m not wired the way everyone else is when it comes to wanting a partner. the best way to explain it is by comparing myself to an elementary age kid, they don’t think about sex, they dont understand/ care about sexiness, their mind simply is not there. I literally couldn’t care less about any of that. I have way more guy friends than girlfriends. I look like I could be a more girly type, but I’m not. Every guy I’ve ever dated trys discouraging my male friendships. they always try to say things like “yeah, because you’re hot.” as if that’s the only reason they talk to me. I know thats not true, and it’s a shitty way to talk to me. I think it’s borderline abusive to try to discourage friendships, old or new. Trying to keep me from making new friends is one that really messes with my head; because what if I am too naive, and they’re right about this new person? it’s impossible to know. Could “'being hot” possibly have been part of the reason they decided to interact/ continue intracting with me in the first place? IDK, maybe? IDC. it doesn’t matter now. These people are my BFFs, our conversations are wildly interesting and hilarious and our adventures are SO much fun. Ive been extremely close with some of these friends for 10+ years and a few are literally in my will. Whether or not they were secretly perves in the beginning, I’m positive that they would agree that our relationship WAY better than being friends with benefits ever could have been. Yet every guy I’ve dated trys to tell me platonic friendships are basically impossible, especially with girls like me and is threatened by the fact my friends are dudes. it’s frustrating, exhausting, depressing. Ugh. how difficult is it to be friends with the opposite sex? I’m not actually a naive social retard, right? submitted by /u/West-Ingenuity-2874
Originally posted by u/West-Ingenuity-2874 on r/AskMen
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