I was in the shower thinking when I realized I haven’t known a single man with a good relationship with his finances. It seems like every man I know falls into one of several categories: We do not talk or think about finances. He either lets his wife/gf/mother/sister handle everything, and he spends whatever is left in his account, or if he doesn’t have someone to handle it he only checks his bank when a card declines. Any questions about his long term planning or budget are met with blank stares or hostility. He budgets down to the penny and obsesses over every single tiny thing. One of my exes was like this- he compared buying anything at all to holding a gun to his head. He lived with his parents, had a well paying job with a massive savings account with no plans to invest, and dumpster dove for his lunches. No forethought. He spends and spends and gets a credit card and maxes it out, refinances the house and car, buys a new truck, and just goes off the rails until it inevitably comes crashing down. I literally have never met a man who budgets moderately, without unhealthily obsessing over pinching pennies, and can talk about his taxes without having a panic attack. I thought it must have been my friend circle for awhile, but even now if I meet a man who has his finances in check there’s someone else doing all the heavy lifting. ( who’s not a professional financial planner. ) I can’t wrap my head around it. I budget moderately, have long term and short term savings and a retirement, and leave myself wiggle room so I can do things I enjoy. Is it just me, or is this a problem for you guys? if so, why and what can society do to help? submitted by /u/succubusbanana
Originally posted by u/succubusbanana on r/AskMen