I (26F) and my date (32M) have been dating for 3 months. Recently he told me he felt sexually controlled, meaning he only gets sex with me whenever he acts according to my terms. For context, we are not official, both show serious intention of learning about each other, consistently putting in time and efforts. I am aware that I’m only turned on when I feel adored, cared for and secure. For example, if he shows some inconsistency in communication (texting me less than usual without letting me know why), I don’t want sex anymore, even though we were all good in person. The thing is I don’t see any thing wrong with what turn me on, but I do understand how he feels that way, and want to figure out something that works for both. Thanks for your input. submitted by /u/Money_Willingness489
Originally posted by u/Money_Willingness489 on r/AskMen
Is that actually what he meant? Did he say those words or did you?