Going to try to keep this short & sweet. I met a guy, he sold me my car and gave me his number. I texted him that I’d love to go out with him. He set a date to a steak house and I was pretty into him from the jump. BUT…here comes the red flags and the ultimate demise of our “relationship”
- I walked ahead of him to go up his steps and he told me to “heel.” He said he was joking, but in grocery stores and other places he would tongue click at me if I walked ahead of him
- I told him (mind you, this is only a few weeks in) that another guy asked me out for Valentine’s Day, but I would rather spend it with him. He responded with “you said that in MY place…I mean, you can come cook me dinner.” He then walked it back (again. saying he was implying we cook together)
- He had a locked second bedroom that he wouldn’t let me in. He later admitted to his dad living with him for a little, and that being his bedroom, but he legit called me one morning when I slept in to make sure I didn’t go in that room (even though it was locked). He was really into guns…which wasn’t a huge concern but he had at least 10 guns and kept one on his desk in his bedroom.
- Asked me to do his dishes, clean up after he ate, iron his clothes before work, fix him a plate at MY friend’s super bowl party (but he’d walk it back to joking almost every time)
- Said, “what if I switch up on you??” when I told him I think I am finally going after good guys. He repeated that a number of times
- He invited me to meet his mom, her husband, and his sister within 6 weeks and she was so excited/elated.
- was leaving his Auto career for a career at a life insurance company. He was like “oh, my friend made $50k in one month.” I told him it’s probably better to stay at the dealership and work your way up, but he was like “I don’t care. I’ll be successful no matter what I do.” HERE IS THE BIG ONE: A week later, I saw a hickey on his neck. He claimed it was from his guns rubbing on his neck. We went back to my place, and he literally demonstrated his gun rubbing against his neck in real time. When I wasn’t obviously convinced, he admitted he was seeing a girl before he met me, and she worked at an adjacent dealership. He agreed to cut her off and block her, but I was completely shocked. He lied to me (and her I found out), telling us both that we were the only one he was sleeping with. It ended really badly. I couldn’t regulate and we are done. I feel relieved but sometimes I feel guilty for not letting it go since we weren’t technically “exclusive.” But some serious character flaws were at play. What do you guys think? submitted by /u/Local_Fox925
Originally posted by u/Local_Fox925 on r/AskMen
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