I think I’ve started to become a bit obsessed with a girl I don’t even know, and I want to snap out of it. We come from the same religious and cultural background, both raised in the West but in different cities. I’ve never met her, just came across her through mutual connections on social media. At first, I assumed she was quite reserved (most girls in our community are like that), but then I saw more photos of her, tagged by friends and other people. She’s honestly very attractive, works in tech, seems independent, travels a lot, and has a proper social life. She hangs out with a diverse group of people, not just within her community. What surprised me was that she seems quite different from what I expected, wearing revealing clothes, drinking alcohol (from what I can see online), which goes against the values we were raised with. It threw me off a bit, especially since I’ve heard her parents (My parents met her parents few times in religious event) are quite strict when it comes to marriage within the same background. The problem is I’ve caught myself going through her photos a lot, even checking other people’s profiles just to see more pictures of her. I’ve actually been doing this kind of thing for years with different people (basically online stalking), and I know it’s not healthy. On my side, I feel like I’m behind in life. I’m doing my MSc in Computing after a lot of setbacks since 2021 (Graduated with BSc in IT- 2021), still not independent yet, and trying to break into a career in data/AI/software/cloud. I’ve gained weight over the years due to stress and being stuck in job hunting mode. I don’t really have a social life or hobbies either. I do find her interesting and would like to meet her, especially since we share a similar background. But realistically, I feel like she’s way out of my league, not just looks, but lifestyle, independence, confidence, everything. I think I’m more obsessed with her lifestyle than anything else. I want to stop this, stop checking her social media and just move on, but I’m struggling to get it out of my head. How do I stop obsessing over someone I don’t even know? submitted by /u/Southern_Mud3841
Originally posted by u/Southern_Mud3841 on r/AskMen