My husband often belittles me, even in front of his parents, and expects me to give him $1000/month toward his debt. At the same time, he’s refused to spend even a few hundred dollars on things that mattered to me, especially cultural gifts early in our marriage. After I give him money, he becomes distant and ignores me, which makes me feel used and unappreciated. I’ll be honest about my side too, I don’t always handle things well. When I feel disrespected, I can lash out, swear, and lose control emotionally. I’ve also been dealing with low iron and depression, which has made me withdraw, stay in my room a lot, and sometimes neglect responsibilities like cleaning. Because of all this, I feel really hurt and stuck. Part of me wants to leave, but I don’t feel like it would impact him much if I did right now. Because like I said - theres not much value I can give him either. However he really played with me and even got me to break out of someone who I was considering in the past by manipulating me into a better life. That’s where my “revenge” idea comes in. I’ve been thinking about acting like the perfect wife for a few months ,being extra kind, not arguing, doing everything he asks, and not reacting even if he says something upsetting. Basically, I’d become the version of myself he could never complain about. Then, out of nowhere, I would leave, go back to my parents’ house and tell him I’m done, without warning. Im READYYY to play the game and be super petty. So no moral police please. Also I do know he loves me too. submitted by /u/EducationalQuiet788
Originally posted by u/EducationalQuiet788 on r/AskMen
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