Like everyone else, I have recently been getting bombarded with content, whether quirky flashy youtube video essays, more personal and raunchy think pieces, or more academic-type articles, all flashing the spotlight on men, whether young men or older, but mostly young men, on why they are not currently dating or having sex. The biggest reason cited is the economy. It is too expensive to date and have sex these days. And so these men, who currently have dating and romantic currently have potential partners for whom to engage in romance and intimacy with, cannot because of the costs. OK. Fine. But I am not buying that the economy is the only reason. Sorry, I am just not. For all of us, the reasons why we are not currently engaging in romance is deeply, deeply personal and unique to our own life circumstances. While there needs to be some sort of across the board conclusions to describe overall trends, it remains that our own reasons are wholly unique to us. While I am sure for some of us who see these kinds of articles, there is of course some relief to know you are not alone, but I anticipate there is also an underlying tone of frustration that feels like someone can “sum up” your own personal pain. I can hear you saying “yeah but you don’t understand the full picture”. It is almost as if there is a “correct” way and a “wrong” reason for why men are not engaging in romance. I am a firm believer that your reason belongs to you, and only you, and that it is the ultimate truth that no one can take away from you or gaslight you into thinking its not the case. And so I want to ask the single men of reddit here in earnest, why aren’t you dating or having sex now? submitted by /u/so_much_frizz
Originally posted by u/so_much_frizz on r/AskMen