Do you see it as acceptable not to plan activities or trips with your kids? Do you think you should be expected to plan those things without being told? Do you think it’s enough just to live in the same house and occasionally converse? My dad never really took the initiative to plan activities for the family to do together. If it weren’t for my mom and for family friends who sometimes planned group camping trips and stuff, my family probably would have never done anything or gone anywhere together when I was growing up. Because my dad would never start anything, my mom always had to be the one initiating and planning which made her feel very alone and unsupported. She frequently complained to him about this but he always felt like she was overreacting and trying to do too much. When I was young I felt defensive of him because I knew he worked hard to support his family (but so did my mom) and I thought that was enough. But now that I’m older I feel bitter towards him because I would’ve done so much more in his position. And then I wondered if this is a man thing and I’m being too hard on him, because men think differently than women, etc. So that’s when I started scrolling the recent posts in this subreddit, and from a first glance it seems like a lot of you prefer to chill rather than plan activities, which I get. But how do you feel about initiating and planning activities to spend time with your kids? Like… what kind of father are you? What kind of father do you plan to be? What do you think should be expected of you without needing to be told? submitted by /u/happyunicorn43
Originally posted by u/happyunicorn43 on r/AskMen
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