Hey all, 35M here. Spent most of my life focused on self-improvement. Got hooked on drugs as a teenager, but I’ve been sober 14 years now. One thing that came out of that is I got very used to challenging my own thinking and updating my model when it was wrong. These are some of the most valuable things I’ve learned:
- Your beliefs shape your experience more than looks, status, or any single trait
- Dating (and life) is ambiguous, if you think negatively, you’ll interpret most things as confirmation
- Most of your “evidence” is filtered through your mindset, not objective reality
- Compatibility > status (not everyone wants the same things)
- What feels impossible is often just something you haven’t experienced yet. If you’ve seen others experience something, it is not impossible for you. Unlikely allows hope.
- Being okay alone or where you’re at now isn’t giving up, it removes pressure and tends to improve outcomes Curious what other guys have learned the hard way that changed things for them. Cheers. submitted by /u/WhichWolfEats
Originally posted by u/WhichWolfEats on r/AskMen
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