18F For context: we are in jewelry studies, in the same class for four consecutive years. Me and my friends are around 18-19 years old. There’s this guy I’d been fixated on since the beginning of my first year. I confessed to him last year, and he just stood there, smiling slightly, gazing into the distance and moving a lil on his feets while I was confessing my feelings to him. We had become quite close as friends at that time. He told me that he preferred to be alone at this time. My crush has passed away. He’s quite introverted, spends a lot of time on his phone, and doesn’t participate in group conversations when we talk at lunchtime. We’re in a bunch of girls, and there are like three guys in the class of 30. One of them, as far as I know, he told me, is gay. The gay guy is very nice, it’s just that some people can’t connect with them, and I can understand that. He’s not the type to communicate, much less his feelings. I had him take an MBTI test once, and he came out as an INTJ. I investigated on Reddit, and it corresponded very well to what I read from people who described immature INTJs. But I want to understand how humans work, and it’s well average to just judge someone immature. Like everybody told everybody someone is immature. Lea already told me that he showed her pictures of overweight women and made fun of her. My friend, who used to be overweight, has become thinner thanks to sports. He’s also most “extreme” republican (iI’m from France, so it’s "extreme droite)I have nothing against political parties, but this might be useful information, I think He’s always been friends with us, and with my best friend, Lila. She’s very touchy-feely with many people she feels comfortable with, and their habit with this former crush is that they bicker and half-fight. She told me that sometimes, when she asked him to stop, he continued, several times. I know my friend’s past; she was abused as a child and is traumatized by it. I advised her to have a one-on-one conversation with him, to tell him things clearly. She did. A few minutes ago, she sat down in a spot after slipping away, and she didn’t know it was the guy’s place, who had gone to the bathroom. He didn’t even tell her to leave; he just grabbed her by the shoulders of her sweater without saying anything else. He doesn’t care what others think, but sometimes in a disrespectful way. I really want to like punch him in the face, or give him a good lesson because his behavior is starting to piss me off since a while. I’m a girl with super thin wrists, just thin in general, so I just can’t be violent, and he’s nonchalant too when I told the truth. Ideas ? submitted by /u/euphorianifesting
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