In school and college, in the groups that I was not very famous in, I just went there, acted fun and stuff, and they used to be smiling and all when I came. Just the funny banter kind of thing, it always happened in unknown groups but I wasn’t a part of them and both of us knew that, but it wouldn’t change the fact that they used to be excited when I walked into a room or something. But the opposite was for my group. I was a part of them, same story in both school and college. So I was pretty normal there, like I used to be myself, no fake sense of excitement and stuff, but I used to be very real, mostly pessimistic. I felt sometimes I just sucked the energy out of the room. I felt I wasn’t taken seriously there and they didn’t care. Although I was sometimes included in the conversation, I was never taken seriously like in the “if I’m not there the thing would fall apart” kind of way that some people do have. Even though I do not contribute to the group as much, I have set clear and straight boundaries. When I say no it means no, so people don’t ask me twice. But in the other case they ask that friend hundreds of times till he says yes. I don’t want hundreds but at least asking a second time would help. Although I do not want to go, it’d be great if they asked me. To show that they cared. Now everyone has moved separate ways and I’m really skeptical of making a new friend group. I just wanted to know what I could do so that it doesn’t happen next time. submitted by /u/Primary_Opening_5698
Originally posted by u/Primary_Opening_5698 on r/AskMen
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