Lately I (29F) feel like guys just don’t approach me anymore and I’m trying to figure out if I’m doing something wrong or if it’s just in my head. For context, I’ve dated attractive men in the past, so I don’t think I’m completely off base in saying I’m at least okay looking. I take care of myself, I do CrossFit regularly, I just cut my hair (kind of an Ella Langley style), I’m really into fashion, and overall I feel pretty good about how I look. I’m curvier and shorter, but I’ve always embraced that. The other night I went swing dancing with a group of my friends, and I couldn’t help but notice that pretty much all of them were getting asked to dance… except me. I do have a lot of really attractive blonde friends, so maybe that’s part of it, but it still stung. I was standing right there, smiling, trying to be open, and just… nothing. I’m single by choice right now, so it’s not like I’m desperate for a relationship, but I am trying to put myself out there more after coming out of a long term relationship. This just made me feel kind of invisible, which sucks. Has anyone else experienced this? Am I giving off some kind of unapproachable vibe without realizing it? I also am not against approaching, and have found success with it in the past, but I’d like to be approached, too. submitted by /u/Alarming_Clock1924
Originally posted by u/Alarming_Clock1924 on r/AskMen