for those of us like me , it takes a lot to be vulnerable. It takes a lot of time and patience. I think I am extremely avoidant in this regard. but in today’s times I really doubt I’ll find someone whose willing to wait for long . was having a conversation with a friend few days back about how all guys are lustful , no matter how shy and conserved he might seem on the outside . she told me about all the guys she’s had a thing with and told me about how each and everyone has tried to test her boundaries no matter how shareef they looked to me . I was seriously taken aback by that . that conversation made me really sad , I truly doubt now if there is a man who is willing to control his lust. I just cannot be with someone too lustful. i fear he is going to use me and leave due to loss of interest after getting what he wanted i don’t mind anything once we are married but I dont think I’ll be able to get that vulnerable with a guy before marriage . is it true that in relationships , a guy cannot truly wait for a girl for long . Is this something unachievable. I’ve also heard that if a guy wants to wife you , he’ll wait . but yesterday’s conversation made me doubt everything. it made me question if guys truly only like you for your body . I really question I’ll ever be able to find someone who is willing to bond over something genuine . someone who is like a bestfriend before anything , who is not controlled by lust so much. I really want a best friend before anything . someone I can be truly myself around . i want something long term hence I want to build my relationship around this rather than just physical intimacy. i hope I am making sense . is there something wrong with me . I really really question everything now . i am starting to feel undeserving of a guy now . as I don’t think I can give in that easily to physical intimacy . submitted by /u/Sea-Theme-6902
Originally posted by u/Sea-Theme-6902 on r/AskMen
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